Different Temperament Types

I have wondered how knowing my temperament will help me in my personal life? I wonder why I do certain things, and react the way that I do. I believe the results of this temperament study will give me insight into some of those “whys”. This study with the four different temperament types will give an underlying reason for my behaviors. I will try to use this information to not use the negative behaviors, which arise from my particular temperament type. When I took the personality test in the Temperament Sorter I was classified as a Guardian.

This trait is characterized by strong managerial and organizational skills, dependability and seriousness, being down-to-earth and conservative. The Keirsey website describes Guardians as the “cornerstone of society” and claims that they make up 40 to 45 percent of the population. It highlights that the greatest strength in the Guardian trait is my logistical intelligence. It further mentions that, my personality dictates that when given an important choice between two methods, I will choose the one I am more familiar with rather than something new (the experience over experimentation principle).

An example is when I want to take my children for an outing, while a new place will bring more excitement and a newer learning experience; I tend to choose the places I am more familiar with. I am very cautious about change, and realizing this I will make a strong effort to allow myself to venture out more and in doing so bring more exciting experiences to the lives of my children as well. Another significant behavior is related to my temperament’s respect for rules and authority.

Thus, when my 11 year old son made his own Halloween decorations which tend to be rather scary for other neighbors, and I got some rather unkind comments, I immediately explained this to my son, and made an effort to remove the scary decorations and place them inside the house, and only let the more happy Halloween decorations remain. Realizing my strong belief in rules, I will further ensure that what is asked of me and my children is also fair in our viewpoint.

Also, since Guardians are very serious about their duties and responsibilities the third important behavior that can be said about me is my need to complete a task when called upon. Thus during my daughters fund raiser at school, even though I was asked to do many last minute requests, because I knew this is important for her school, I tried to get things done to the best of my ability, even though I placed a huge stress upon myself. Lastly my need to follow schedules, and deadlines that is often a great trait in organizations at home can often lead to friction.

It is very important for me to realize this drawback, and allow more flexibility. I believe if I can do this, I will help myself, and my family be more relaxed. As my mother always says “what will happen if your son doesn’t finish his homework, Friday night, he can do it Saturday or Sunday, and still feel he has had some freedom! 2 After reading my temperament, I think many of the traits of a Guardian are similar to what would be considered a good teacher. For example, Guardians will usually abide by the rules and respect authority.

This characteristic sets a good example for the students. A teacher should always adopt a fair attitude, when it comes to making any form of evaluation, and must always be fair in their profession and while assessing students on their performance, instead of personal rapports and likings. One of the main characteristics of Guardians is that they always want fairness. Guardians tend to find satisfaction in doing work that involves detail; a good teacher should be meticulous and have an eye for detail.

In fact, a disorganized person would find teaching unsuitable and unfulfilling. Well thought-out plans and programs for teaching will assist the productivity of a teacher. This temperament is always concerned about the welfare of people and will look after the physical needs of others, which is ideal in a teaching situation. Guardians expect to be held accountable and to take responsibility. They happily shoulder the load that they know needs to be done. A teacher should be dedicated towards their work.

They should not kill time in the classroom and wait for the school bell to ring. Instead, taking out time and going the extra mile for the students is what makes an ideal teacher. A good teacher must have good time management skills and always value the importance of time, this will help the students to get organized and further enhance their learning by them learning to better manage their time. Guardians can have a lot of fun, but are quite serious about their duties responsibilities.

A teacher who can have fun with their students, yet to remain serious about responsibilities so the students can both relax and enjoy the teacher, yet also have respect is a hallmark of a great teacher! 3 Research shows that shows that goodness of fit between your child’s temperament and your parenting style is important for healthy social and emotional development. Differences in child temperament require differences in parental handling to achieve a good fit.

For this to occur after reading my temperament I have to match My demands or expectations with what my child is able to do, given my child’s temperament, age and abilities. I would now start by learning about my child’s temperament as well. If I can understand my child’s temperament then I can plan ahead to prevent potential problems. If I can learn about their difficulties, then I could use strategies to make the specific situation easier for everyone. For example as a Guardian I believe in law and order, and sometimes worry that respect for authority, even fundamental sense of right and wrong, is being lost.

My son as a Rational disregards any authority or customary procedure that wastes time and resources! I have tried to convey this message to him by teaching him why rules are important, and giving him specific examples, versus simply asking him to obey the rules and not be allowed to question me in any form. Because as a rational he trusts logic, and needs to understand why these rules are necessary. My daughter on the other hand is a Guardian like myself, and because she prefers sameness, I take my time introducing new things to her.

For example when I take her to a new class, if I simply ask her to go and join in, and walk away, it will end badly. I have tried many different activities with her, and if I sit with her and give her time to explore to become comfortable, she is always happy, and engages beautifully. Considering the vast differences between our temperaments, and all the strengths and weaknesses we possess, it is important to learn how each temperament type will interact with each other and hopefully combine traits to bring about “goodness of fit”.

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Reaction for marriage and family

I can really relate to this, in certain ways I have felt that my parents have tried to make me like them instead of letting me blossom into whom I want to be. I may not always make the choices that they want, or that they would choose, but in the same essence we are all different and we are all created to be who we want to become. The choices and decisions we make may not always be good or right, but the things we go through help us to grow up and learn things that we other wise would have never came to understand. I also agree very much with the part where he was talking about to being able to give your children your thoughts.

Parents can preach to their kids and tell them their opinions all they want, but at the end of the day we are all our own individuals and we all have our own views and opinions, through the things that we have went through. Not one person on this earth goes through exactly the same pattern as anyone else, we all go through things that make us who we are, and we all have and see things differently. The beauty of that Is our thoughts are what make us, Some of the things that I do not particularly agree with are where he Is saying that hillier come through you, but are not really yours.

That does not really sit well with me, because I feel that children are a gift to you and that they are yours. I believe that they are also gifts from God, but they are yours until you dedicate them back to God. That Is Just my opinion though; I suppose It could be wrong. I feel that you are suppose to raise your kids and take care of them and supply for them so therefore that means that they are yours. That was really the only part that did not sit very well with me. Overall, I can relate to his philosophy of parenting.

I think that this writing was beautiful. Just reading It really made me think a lot about parenting and life. It Is a very deep and meaningful philosophy. It Is almost as though he Is saying that a child Is never really yours, and that you are merely there to be Like them. I do not think that to many parents actually live by this philosophy. I see a lot of parents that try to control or live through their children’s lives. Sometimes I think that parents Just want to protect or they care to much which Is why they control, but It does not make It right.

I think that If more parents lived by the philosophy there would be a lot more mature children In the world, because they would have been learning how to make hand things to their kids and plant their own views in their kids head, they do not let experience and question life so they never really get to grow, then when they are on their own they go crazy because they never had the chance to learn. I really liked this article, it really did make me think quite a bit and think about things my parents did and things that I would like to do in the future.

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Hsm Appendix

Instead of confronting the husband trying to talk rationally with him and defuse the situation while alarming the authorities is the best route for dealing with a person like that. In the case of the wife the programs offered through the agency promote self-worth and help prevent her from feeling bad about herself. Learning new Job skills and healthy ways of thinking about oneself should prepare her for an Independent lifestyle to provide for her and her children. Scenario 2: Closure of a Planned Parenthood Clinic In Scenario two the prevention level being used is the Secondary level of prevention.

Secondary prevention can be defined as the early detection and treatment of dysfunction. In this scenario I see the human services program attempting to prevent teenage pregnancy and the rate in their community from steady climbing up by offering services to help teens prevent unplanned pregnancies. I would handle this situation a little differently than how it is handled in this scenario. I would I would still organize a group of other health and human service providers to help In assisting the county to solve the issues, but In Dalton to that I would bring wariness to the community and local politician through getting the media involved.

I would also look into doing different fundraising drives to help build money as well as charity drives to keep the clinic open. I would make sure I explain to the public and politicians how unique our program is from others and why it’s essential that we stay open. Scenario 3: Caring for the Homeless In scenario three the prevention level being used is the tertiary prevention. This type of prevention is generally defined in terms of efforts to rehabilitate and return to the community those afflicted with severe mental disorders.

In this scenario I wouldn’t change anything I think that bringing health services In the clinics is the best solution to ensure that the homeless are getting the attention and care they need since they generally wouldn’t go on their own. Having the health resources there onsite makes it physicians and staff to work towards rehabilitating them and ensuring they are healthy. Bringing the services into the clinics will ensure that their needs are being met properly and it will also help to clean up the community of those who are mentally ill by making sure they are well taken care of.

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Parenting Teenage Boys and Education

Keeping your cool and staying firm without letting your guard down.Do we all know how to keep our cool at the moment of a disappointment with our teenage boy? Parenting Teenage boys can be a hell of a rollercoaster ride what matters most is the foundation you lay out for them when they are young.

Being a role model speaks volume. Communication is the key element to connect with your teen. Parenting is a challenging task, but with the proper guidance and understanding parents can raise their son’s to be their best and to succeed. “Therefore parents who refrain from corporal punishment seem to have a more positive outcome and are more successful in being able to get their Teen to focus on their education and every aspect of their life.”

Development: Making your teen aware of the changes in his body, the knowledge on sex, alcohol, drugs and weapons.

Connecting: Learning how to communicate with your teen and their emotions.Educational attitude: Schooling them on the importance of education and the impact it has on their lives.

Boundaries: Teaching them about consequences. Identifying core values: Knowing what makes them valuable and making them aware of it.

It requires us as adults to be good role models and be the best example for them in all aspects of their life from beginning to end. This includes when they begin their development as adolescents and begin the early stages of puberty and start having a desire for sex, and talking to them about alcohol and the danger of drugs and weapons. Connecting with your Teen allows you to be able to communicate and connect with what they are feeling.

Also it is very important that we understand the attitude that they have about Education and help them understand the impact it can have in their lives. Also putting boundaries to show them that crossing that line has consequences. Also being able to identify their core values will help the process. As a parent sometimes you have to walk the talk.

Unfortunately some parents use corporal punishment while others completely abstain from such due to their beliefs and morality of the situation. As for me and in my opinion and experience I find that corporal punishment does not work for me due to my upbringing in which I never agreed. I feel that violence does not resolve anything and will only result in negative behavior coming from your Teen.

This includes them rebelling towards you in many ways, not sleeping well, not eating well, not focusing in school and affecting their surroundings in general.

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Essay about Parenting skills

  1. What makes a good parent is when the parent isn’t worried about being a good parent.
  2. What are some of the common problems that children might have? Temper tantrums, sleeping problems for child and parents, toileting problems, and eating.
  3. Why Is play important in the parent-child relationship? Because you need to be there commenting like a sports commentator, it shows the child that your there and you support the child.
  4. Do you think you will ? Why or why not? I think I ould be a great parent because I have the patience todo anything with the child weather It comes to eating or sleeping . After watching the video I think I can easily be a good parent.
  5. Why did the men say that they were ready for children? They dldnt really explain why they were ready for children mostly how they got ready. They said they had to give their relationship a bit of time so they can bond as a couple?
  6. What did the men have to learn as new fathers? They had to learn how to motinaly let go there old life and grow into a father?
  7. Do you think the fathers enjoy fatherhood more today than in the past? Why or why not? I think that they enjoy being fathers because it has made them focus on there relationship.
  8. What are some of the difficulties that new fathers (and mothers) face? Having a social life, and having alone time.
  9. What are some of the benefits of being “childish”? it gives reasons of why not to do things.
  10. Why does Svitak say that adults should listen and earn from kids and not Just have kids learning from kids? Do you agree? Why or why not? I disagree because in reality children aren’t trusted to teach parents.
  11. Why is trust important in the relationship between kids and adults for learning to take place? Because if you dont trust someone you restrict them.
  12. Do you agree with Svitak that parents and adults should have high expectations for kids? Why? Yes because later in life when you reach your expectation you can probably exceed higher than your expectations.

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Talking To My Country by Stan Grant

Talking To My Country by Stan Grant (2016) is an individual account of an Aboriginal man residing in and navigating between two traditions in Australia. It is a personal contemplation on ethnicity, traditions, and nationwide character that is both profoundly thought-provoking, poignant and troubling. It has left me stunned at my own lack of understanding about the genuine circumstances surrounding Australia’s settlement, the acts of violence committed against the Aboriginal people and, dismayed and disconcerted at my personal want of understanding and gratefulness for Aboriginal people and their care of and love for our country.

I am saddened to say, that before I read this book I had no perception of what it entails to be Aboriginal in Australia. While reading this book I was exasperated by the management of the Aboriginal people and repelled by the awareness that they are still disregarded and grieving today. I should acknowledge also that I have a part to play in this as I have never examined previously what I have, how I got it and who paid the ultimate price for how I live today.

I recall in Grades 5 and 6 in Social Studies learning about the settlement of Australia. I recall the posters I took so much pride in making and coloring in showing James Cook, Botany Bay and Sydney Cove and the flag showing the Union Jack. I remember learning about the hardships that faced the settlers and remember only now after reading this book, the token paragraph on the Aboriginal people. It is only when I read Talking To My Country that I fully fathomed that Australia’s settlement was in fact Australia’s dispossession. Grant (2016) is correct when he says we know little about Aboriginal people. (p. 4, para. 3)

Identity

Stan Grant’s identity as an Aboriginal person growing up in Australia is established on numerous influences. The most important is Country. Country to me has always meant the land I live in and love. Grant (2016) enlightens emotionally in his book that Country for the Aboriginal people incorporates not just the physical land but also spiritual, past, community, financial and traditional facets of being Aboriginal.

On reading this book I realise that the perception I have of country is sadly not the concept that Grant (2016) feels and knows intimately in Talking To My Country. Morgan (2008) expresses how Country is a “calling…more than what can be seen with the physical eye…”. Grant (2016, p. 159, para. 1) has this profounder awareness of country as a spiritual bond.

It is only when I read this book that I recognized that Grant’s identity is his country, as his Country bestows on him and all Aboriginal people their feeling of place or belonging. Kwaymullina (2008) states that that Aboriginal people are an existing, conscious, discerning, expression of their land. Country is beyond a place or soil. It is a recognition system. Kline, (2018, Topic 5) asserts that this is observed currently in salutations which enables people to position others in the traditional environment of Country.

Country also embodies the spiritual. In Talking To My Country, Grant (2016) illustrates how country is the heart of Aboriginal spirituality.

“I will always sit by a river or stand on my land and hear the voices and see the faces of my people. My children and their children will always be Wiradjuri people.” (Talking To My Country, 2016, p. 223, para. 1)

The author’s identity is also interrelated with country in its historical associations. I sensed that the author utilised history of country to expand in me an improved knowledge of and appreciation for collective histories. Grant (2016) highlights how Indigenous history is essential to the development of Australian identity. I felt while reading this book very honored as, the author bares his soul to reveal how his life has been formed by past and present Aboriginal experiences. Grant (2016, p. 69, para 3) makes use of the historical framework of country to underscore the powerful oral histories of pre and post colonisation that are entwined in his identity. He discloses too, the multiplicity of past and present-day Aboriginal traditional life.

It is from within this framework that Grant (2016) exposes the appalling impact that government policies, legislation and legal decisions have had and continue to have, on Indigenous peoples. Grant (2016) elucidates that previously determinations made for the “benefit” of the country, played a part only in dividing the country for generations to come. Dodson (1994) argues that the strategies calculated to terminate Indigenous cultures were not perceived as ethnic extermination, but the charitable legacy of development. These procedures and legislature crushed not merely one generation but generations to come.

The author’s identity is also explained by kinship. The basis of the kinship structure is that Aboriginal people consider their whole group as a family. The social qualities of the author’s family group were crucial in establishing his identity. Throughout Talking To My Country, Grant (2016) provides circumstantial stories about his parents, grandparents, cousins, aunties and uncles. As I read the book, I understood that from an early age, Aboriginal people learn who belongs to them, where they originate from and in what way they should conduct themselves relative to their kinship networks.

Grant’s identity as an Aboriginal man in contemporary Australia holds intense significance. His identity appears at times to be a cross to endure. The book leaves me feeling that being an Aboriginal man in Australia has taken a heavy toll on Grant. The book opens with the young Grant drifting from one spot to the next and progresses to the damaging encounters of being withdrawn out of class at school by government representatives and scrapping with the white boys at school.

Reading his narrative of his grandfather’s survival, and subsequent treatment, in the frontier wars and the continual reminder as he walked past the places as a child can only have been traumatic and potentially detrimental on the young Grant’s intuit of self. Muir (2006) contends that historical suffering is the communal, emotional and spiritual wound, throughout the lifetime of a person or a group. In Talking To My Country , this wound festers in Grant’s grandfather’s and father’s individual lifep and across generations to Grant’s and his son’s lifep.

Grant’s identity was further formed as a teen when he encountered racism at school. Even with the Federal Government in 1970 paying allowances to Aboriginal children to stay in school, he was removed to the principal’s office and informed that he and his cousins would be better off abandoning school because of their ethnicity. (Talking To My Country, 2016, p.45, Para.4)

Stan Grant’s identity is founded on extremely juxtaposing emotions. I believe that Stan Grant’s identity incorporates both extraordinary sorrow and resentment. This is counterbalanced by Grant’s remarkable dignity in where he has come from an ancestrally, who he was, that young boy who was so ashamed of the colour of his skin and, the man he has become today, a family man, award winning reporter, television anchor and foreign correspondent.

As an Aboriginal man living in contemporary Australia, Stan Grant has extended us in Talking To My Country an awareness into what it means to be an Aboriginal living in Australia. He addresses every Australian about our country as it was, is, and could be in the future. His book both criticizes the Australian dream and aspires to the new all-encompassing Australian dream which is only conceivable if we unlock our minds and hearts to the reality of Australia.

Historical impact of the dispossession, oppression, and marginalisation of the Aboriginal people in Australia.

“This was the space that history had made and the place it had reserved for people like us.” (Talking To My Country, 2016, p. 37, para. 4)

This quote encapsulates the author’s feelings about the effect that colonisation, the subsequent government policies, legislation and legal determinations have had on Indigenous people. The author’s application of persuasive technique is clearly evident in this brief sentence that generates clout and achieves his point. The use sensory language arouses the feelings and generates intense pictures in my mind. This is specifically so in the words “…people like us.” (Talking To My Country, 2016, p.37, para. 4) which immediately makes me feel unnerved and chagrined.

This quote is also intended as a statement on Australia’s history which Grant considers has pursued two distinct pathways, one Indigenous and one white Australian. Briskman (2014, Ch. 1, pg. 23, para. ) states that Indigenous people were and remain maltreated by the downgrading of their involvement in times past, rule and procedures in Australia and elsewhere.

The premise of colonisation by the British was “terra nullius”, a lawful expression which declared that the land Australia belonged to no one. This was an unashamed rejection of the existence of Indigenous Australians as human beings. This principle fashioned the foundation of the association between Indigenous people and the nation state from its very establishment. This challenging connection has never completely been reconciled.

From 1788 until current day colonial authorities have at no time joined in discussions with Indigenous people about appropriating their land. This absence of agreement must denote for Aboriginal people that they go on to experiencing the distress of occupation, dispossession and denial of acknowledgement.

From 1788-1930’s thousands of Indigenous people engaged in battle with colonisers for their birthplace, kin and way of life. These wars have been excluded from history and subsequently people like myself had no understanding of the battle by Indigenous people for their country.

From 1780’s-1920’s the Indigenous population was shattered, and Indigenous people were debased in order to rationalise the horrendous undertakings against them. I can’t start to realise the bearing the destruction of traditions, loss of cultural knowledge as whole family groups were slain had, on Indigenous people. This would have led to a crisis of identity and belonging which still effects people to the present day. Until I read this book I felt complicit in this as my being uninformed without doubt supplemented the invalidation and pain of many Indigenous people.

From 1820’s to the present day the legislation and state policies of government worked to prevent Indigenous people from involvement as nationals through their extraction to reserves and missions. The effect of this today is that many Indigenous people are existing with the trauma of growing up in these circumstances.

The colonisation of Australia preordained denial, ostracism and subjugation to the Aboriginal peoples. It commenced with their land being appropriated, their derestriction as human beings and advanced to their being tracked down and murdered and their children being taken. From the nineteenth century through to the 1970’s , the Australian Government presupposed lawful responsibility of all Aboriginal children and consequently isolated children away from their families with the intention of integrating them into European culture.

The Human Rights and Equal Rights Opportunity Commission (1997) avows that this integration was founded on the hypothesis of black inferiority which recommended that Indigenous people must be permitted to die out within a progression of natural elimination, or where achievable integrated into the white community. The impact of this today is the disorder of Indigenous values and much Indigenous cultural knowledge being lost.

Concurrently, numerous Indigenous people from the Stolen Generation never experienced residing in a beneficial family environment and subsequently never acquired parenting skills.

From 1880-1960 social segregation signified that Indigenous people were marginalised in all facets of life. This led to Indigenous people being left without the entitlements and freedoms of that system including healthcare, education and employment. The impact of this today can be seen in elevated proportions of poverty, imprisonment, unemployment, homelessness, inferior health and deficiency in educational opportunities and outcomes.

The Aboriginal people that did survive the Stolen Generation subsisted with unbearable anxiety and what we recognise today as trans-generational trauma. I personally understand trauma to be defined as an individual’s reaction to a major shattering occurrence that is so devastating, it disenables a person to the point that they are unable to come to terms with the event either for a short period of time or indefinitely and are, unable to move on with their life as it was before the event.

The Healing Foundation (2013) explains trans-generational trauma as trauma, that is passed on from the first generation of survivors who wholly underwent or observed the trauma to future generations. Milroy in Zubrick et al (2014) argues in detail about the intensified consequences of unending exposure to elevated levels of trauma occasioning a communal emotional and psychological injury.

Talking To My Country is a special interpretation of trans-generational trauma. The book is about Grant’s upbringing and consequent adult life, his own family and how Indigenous people in Australia have undergone trauma as a direct result of colonisation. This trauma has included the accompanying hostility, forfeiture of customs and land, as well as successive policies such as the enforced removal of children. Atkinson et al (2014) maintains there is an association between government policies and interventions and actions accompanying trauma events in Aboriginal people.

Likewise, Kirmayer, Tait & Simpson (2009) state that Indigenous people, everywhere in the world, have suffered colonisation, cultural subjugation, involuntary integration with little interest for their self-sufficiency. Talking To My Country underscores the trauma that colonisation and succeeding policies have begotten Indigenous people and the distressing after-effects that even now pervade indigenous culture today.

These consequences include the interruption of culture and undesirable impacts on cultural distinctiveness that have been passed from generation to generation. Talking To My Country is one man’s journey through the increasing consequence of historical and inter-generational trauma. Grant (2016) repeatedly refers to aspects which subsidize the social, political and economic position of Indigenous people today and how these aspects have a great deal of their origin in historical policies and practices.

Talking To My Country is a poignant account of Australian history, identity, and the bearing that government policies, legislation and legal decisions had and continues to have on Indigenous people. Briskman (2014, p.15, para.3) purports that history and policy are collective in their methods and results. Indigenous people who haven’t immediately gone through the happenings are nonetheless frequently crushed by the legacy left behind.

Talking To My Country while being an insight into the trauma caused by colonisation is, also a challenge to Australians today to justly scrutinise what it signifies to be Australian today considering our history of settlement. It is an open invitation to consider our country as it was, as it is today and as it could be in the future. Talking To My Country is a cry for Australia to be honestly inclusive. There are no rejoinders or resolutions but there is the anticipation that, and opportunity for, the Australian dream will be accurately Australian and will hold close all Australians.

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Psychology-1 Parenthood Analysis

Raising his only daughter, Patty, to be a perfect human is Nathan Huffner’s goal. He is in denial about his attitude towards raising his daughter; he said that he just wanted Patty to learn more than other kids do but the truth is he wants Patty to be his source of achievement; he is proud that his child is a genius and for that, he feeds his pride. He trained his daughter to be so intelligent, to be not only good at everything but be the best at everything. He taught his daughter things that even some adults can’t do.

His daughter never had a chance to complain about the things that was being taught to her because she was so little to understand that her life was not the life of an ordinary little girl. Nathan Huffner concentrated so much about his child’s intellectual learning. He even refused to have another baby because he wanted to concentrate on Patty’s “above normal” development; because of that, his wife was so disappointed but she can’t show all her anger to her husband that’s why he just displace her disappointment on eating and filling her appetite. He didn’t let his child to enjoy her life as a child.

He just fed Patty with knowledge and other complicated things and never let her feel the feeling of what a normal little girl should feel. That made him an authoritarian parent; the one that discourages expressions of disagreement. He has strict standards; he wants Patty to be a perfect human. As a result, Patty was unsociable with other children. She was unfriendly to others. She was withdrawn and was acting and reacting weird to situations that seems normal to other children (an example is the “thumb magic” of Gil to the children; others had fun with that magic while Patty screamed and ran away.

Maybe that’s because of too many scientific facts in her head that made her think that that magic was disgusting. ) Another scene that showed Patty being different from other children was in the party of Kevin; she saw a boy turning around and around, she asked her mother what was the boy doing, that means that Patty was unable to do the things that a normal child experiences, which is doing silly things and enjoying those silly things. Frank Buckman was a permissive father for Larry Buckman. He was ever supportive on his son even though he knows that Larry is involved in some illegal scams for easy and quick money.

There was even a point in the movie that Larry had to pay a large amount of money or else he will be killed. Frank was disappointed with Larry but he wants to help him because he loves him so much. He wanted to bail out Larry by using the car that he loved so much for the crime he did. As a result, Larry has a low self control and was dependent to his father. He thinks that it’s alright to do bad things because his father will always be supportive to him. He even had a baby with a show girl in Las Vegas; that shows how low his self control was. Yet, he was an uninvolved parent to his other kids.

All his attention was on Larry that he was now emotionally detached to Gil and the others. Although his like that, it was then revealed that he also loved Gil. But instead of showing love, he showed the exact opposite of it. He used reaction formation. Showing love provokes anxiety on Frank because he always saw himself as a tough guy. He didn’t like showing a soft side of him. Also, Frank is in denial that he hated Gil because he taught that he had polio but he is covering his feelings towards his son because love provokes anxiety on him. Larry Buckman was concentrated to his illegal schemes for him to get easy and quick money.

He had a bi-racial son named Cool; who was the fruit of his affair with a showgirl in Las Vegas. Larry was a negligent parent. He doesn’t really care for Cool; as long as the child is fed, his child has a house to stay on; he thinks that his responsibility is done. He had his family take care of Cool because he knows that his father will support him all the way. As a result, Cool became an indifferent kid. He was always inside the house and never got the chance to mingle and play with other kids; that makes him ignorant to the outside world and his cognitive and social development was impeded.

He feels unloved and emotionally detached from his own father. There is a part in the movie that Larry and Frank were talking about how to bail out Larry from his gambling addiction, his father mentioned that he will enter a “gambling anonymous”; which means that Larry is in denial of his addiction in gambling that’s why he should enter in a gambling anonymous. He’s scared of entering the real world. He is scared of getting a job because he may not be good at it. So he was involved in gambling and rationalizes to himself that it was because of what his father has always taught him.

Helen is a permissive parent. She was undemanding and was so easy in them. She lacks control on her two children, Garry and Julie. As a result, Garry appears to be a very weird boy. He was quiet and shows very little concern about what her mother says. He has this mysterious paper bag that he keeps in his room. He wants to stay in his room all day and if he goes out, he locks his room and doesn’t want anyone to enter his room. Helen wondered what is inside the paper so he opened Garry’s room to look for the paper bag; finding out that the paper bag was filled with porn movies.

Helen showed a little disappointment but later on shows approval and rationalizes that it is normal for Garry to be curious about those things because Garry just entered puberty and he doesn’t have a father to ask about those things. Another effect was shown by her daughter Julie. Julie was a wild and curious girl. Julie wanted to be with his boyfriend, Tod, and ignores her mother’s advice. She left their house and stayed with Tod. They even got married. Eventually, Julie returned home and went back to her mother, which shows how Julie was so dependent on her mother’s company.

After all, Helen still agreed to let Julie and Tod stay in her house and already accepts Tod as a part of their family. As shown in the movie, both Julie and Tod expresses unwanted behaviors; these may be a way to repress their memories about the separation of their parents; they focused on other things so that they can forget about that experience that surely affected them. Gil Buckman is another permissive father in this movie. There were so many problems that he encountered in this movie. First, he found out that his eldest son, Kevin, needs to transfer to a special school for special kids and need to undergo therapy.

He rationalized that Kevin is just too smart that’s why he seems not so normal compared to other kids. He covered up his anxiety of Kevin being not normal so he believes his own lie that Kevin is just too smart. At first he disapproved to that opinion but eventually, he agreed upon seeing the behavior and reaction of Kevin to different situations (baseball and the lost retainer). Another problem that he encountered was his job because the partnership was given to another person which means that he will be facing a serious financial problem in his family.

He was so frustrated and angry so when he went back home, he was arguing with his wife. He displaced his anger to his wife because even though he showed anger to his boss, still he can’t put out all his anger to his boss. Then he found out that his wife, Karen, was pregnant. He was so frustrated about all of these problems but still he agreed on having a birthday party for Kevin. Kevin wanted to have a cowboy character that twists balloons on his birthday. Even though Gil knows that that will be expensive, he still agreed on hiring that cowboy character on Kevin’s birthday.

When he found out that the cowboy will not make it to the party, he didn’t want Kevin to be disappointed, so he dressed like a cowboy and performed at the party even though he looks silly. He can’t disagree to his son’s wishes; that proves that he is a permissive parent; even though he knows it will be hard for him, he makes sure that he will not disappoint his children. But his being permissive had a good effect on his children. Kevin’s emotional problem begins to improve. At first he questions his abilities on being a father to his children because of the burdens that he faced but eventually, he was still a good father then.

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