Punishment

As we know, physical punishment has always been an effective way for training animals. Once they become wild, flinging the whip is what we do to make them being well-behaved. However, does it work for training children? Are their behaviors all get better and better after that? In my point of view, I strongly object parents who admire that physical punishment is the best way to teach and train their own children. Although the pain of body is easy to make people learn the lesson, on the other hand, it may also be easy to leave the scars on body and heart, cause family problems and losing the opportunities for children to judge the right and wrong by themselves own.

First of all, even the pain of punishment will disappear, the scars on body and heart somehow will remain for the entire life. With no doubt, teaching children not to spill the milk on the floor by simply slapping on their bottoms would be a rapid way to warn them not to make the same mistake again. However, I think your children would remember how bad you treat them more than the lesson they’ve learned and reflect this rage on their children in the future by teaching them in same way. In addition, some researches even have shown the causes of some criminal’s psychological problems can be traced back to their parents’ serious physical punishment or even abuse. The former dictator of Iraq Saddam Hussein would be a good example.

Second, without violence in the house, I believe children will have a happier childhood and get along with their parents better when they grow up. If we observe the relationship between parents and children more carefully, it is not hard to find out the happiness existing in the house is not only connected to children’s behavior but also parents’. After all, simply punish them physically can’t make them easier to understand what exact the mistake they make because they only know it’s wrong but don’t know why it is wrong. However, although it takes more time, if you explain to them why they do is wrong and what bad results they may cause instead of punish them, then it would be easier to make them understand this mistake can not be done again without making an awkward atmosphere in the family.

Finally, to let the children know what is right and what is wrong, I
think the best way for them is to experience and judge by themselves. Like I mentioned above, the most important principle is let them know why it’s wrong. Once they find out, then their brain will naturally tell them not to do it before they get hurt (no matter by themselves or parents). For instance, even you strongly warned your children don’t get too close to the fire, they still want to touch and feel it what it is. But once they suffer from the pain of burning, I assure you they don’t dare to do it again on purpose.

To make a conclusion, I think physical punishment is not the best way to train children. Although it is fast and effective sometimes, you will never know what consequences it may bring in the future. After all, compared to the bad relationship and many problems it may cause, the long time it takes to teach a child in a liberal and gentle way seems very worthy.

Positive Guidance and Discipline In Classrooms There is a difference in guidance and discipline. Discipline involves teaching and learning. It also comes from the root word “disciple” which means a pupil, a follower, or a learner. Guidance is an attempt to change behavior by leading, directing, teaching, and advising. But the two have a connection. The main goal for guidance is self-discipline. Once a child achieves self- discipline, it will increase his or her ability to learn new social skills.

They are also given more opportunities to practice those skills on their own rather than having an adult solve every problem or conflict that they have. Children and adults views on discipline are based on Past experiences, cultural values, lack of knowledge and current social values. Before we can guide children’s behavior, we must understand the child’s behavior. In my early childhood class we learned that there are two different types of guidance; direct guidance and indirect guidance. Direct guidance is verbal and physical techniques that are used to influence a child’s behavior.

Some examples of direct guidance are redirection, distraction, positive reinforcement, encouraging, and limits. Direct guidance strategies will differ between age groups and even for individual children. Indirect Guidance is planning that influences the child’s behavior. Example of indirect guidance strategies are planning, observation, room arrangement, modeling, and age appropriate equipment and materials. Neither direct nor indirect guidance includes punishment. Most negative punishment is unnecessary. It causes pain most of the time and it puts fear in the child.

The child will probably grow up being scared of you and that will damage the relationship forever and it would also block positive discipline. It makes the child resent the person who punished them. Punishment also tears away a child’s self-esteem and it offers no possible solutions or explanation to the problem. It makes a child feel like its ok to hurt someone you love. This may leads to problems like abuse, neglect and domestic violence when they grow older. Instead of punishing a child for something they do wrong, try to redirect and guide them on the right thing hat they should be doing. Explain to them in a nice voice that what they are doing is wrong. Tell them how to fix it instead of yelling or pking. Maybe even a time out could be put into place but this should be used as a type of punishment either. It should be used for reflective purposes. When you send a child to time out they should go off to the side to think about what they did that was wrong. Short time outs seem to work best. They should be two to three minutes long. Many people see the quick result of punishment and think it is effective but it isn’t.

As we learned in class it just buts a “band-aid” on it but it doesn’t fix the problem it just makes it worst. A reaction to punishment is anger. Most of the time children who are punished who to get even. They get even by hitting others. Most people who often get punished are often bullies. They feel as though mommy and daddy take their anger out on me so I’m going to take my anger out on someone that’s smaller than me. This creates a major problem in the classroom. They call other children names, ruin other people’s work and take their things.

When you come across a student like this, as a teacher, you can’t punish him or her because it will cause even more damage. When mommy and daddy uses punishment at home they don’t have to deal with the results but the teacher has to at school. Punishment focuses attention on what not to do rather than what to do. That’s why when we made rules charts in class we used positive words instead of negative words like “no”. Instead of enforcing rules of what not to do, rules should tell children what to do. For example if you want the children to walk inside, you will say we walk inside.

Rules should be simple so children can understand and must be positive. Rules prepare children for a successful living in the future. Having too few rules gives children make children think that they can do whatever they want to do. Sometimes it provokes them to do power struggles and test the limits even harder to get their parents or teacher to use their authority. On the other hand, a great number of rules or being a strict parenting creates an bad relationship between parent and child and fosters feelings of resentment and rejection, which lowers a child’s self-esteem.

Besides, excessive control can provoke rebellion, not only toward the parents, but also against other authority figures. Although children may not like the rules, they deserve to receive explanations for limits and expected consequences for breaking the rules. When a child hears a negative statement like, “Don’t throw the sand out the sandbox ! ” what the child really thinking is throw the sand out the sandbox, instead what you told them to do. If you do state a rule in the negative, like “No hitting! ”, but an positive statement with it.

In conclusion it is way better to use positive words and positive discipline rather than negative punishment. Punishment causes shame, blame and pain and no one wants that. It would both benefit you as the teacher or parent and the child. Negative discipline only puts a “band-aid” over the problem for short term results. The problem is not solved and eventually gets worst in most cases. Take the time out to talk to the child and redirect and guide young children behavior because it will teach them how to act and solve their problems on their own the next time.

Can you remember the last time someone lied to you or you did to someone? Even though lying is morally wrong, people lie every day for many reasons. It is all around us that never stops. It is quite common and comes naturally to human beings. There are many kinds of lies. It may be beneficial to some people and it might be harmful to others. Some lies hurt people and end up with bad consequences while some do not hurt anyone. This kind of lies which do not hurt or harm people, is called while lies. A correlation between people and white lies is natural. People often lie to each other because of their own reasons such as hiding the truth, getting personal benefits, and avoiding punishments.

First, some people lie to conceal the truth. They do not want to reveal the truth to families and friends. Sometimes people say they have plans to do something when they do not have in reality. They just build up something that cover up the reason to avoid things. They just pretend to hide the truth like my sister does. For example, my sister lies to her friend when she does not want to go parties. She makes a story that her schedule is already made.

She tells that we have guest at home or she has a headache so that she can easily hide the truth. She does not let her friends know that she doesn’t like to go with them. Furthermore, People lie when they think it just does not matter or does not make any difference to anyone. When a waiter asks me how is the food in resturants, I simple reply that it is very good even though I don’t like the food. I believe it does not make any difference to the waiter because it’s taste is depends on me. I lie without realizing that I am lying and it does not make any change in others’ lives.

Second, people lie to gain personal advantages and improve their images or status in the society. People tell fib to make their lives easy and to reach in a high position in their jobs. They exaggerate themselves or things to have some opportunities. Such as sales person or marketing person presents only positive things about products or offers and make people buy their products. Likewise, some people in the workplace lie to others to get extra credits from a manager.

They elaborate simple things to obtain reputations and recognistions. Similarly, politicians lie to people to acquire their attention and to become favorable. Some politicians make promises to work on major issues and problems during the election time. They lie to people beccause they want to secure people’s votes and they need to be approved. Politicians have desire to maintain their good image among people and they use some lies to keep that quality as much as possible.

Third, some people tell untruth to avoid punishments and penalties. It is more common in students and childrens. They build up some kinds of excueses to not to be penalized. Students tell untruth to their teachers about missing classes or undone assignments. They come up with false reasons to avoid getting low grades. For example, if students do not finish their homework, they say that they have done but unfortunately their computer was crashed and file is deleted.

Another people deceive in order to protect themselves and our friends. One time I lied to my best friend’s parents to assist my friend to escape from a penalty. She went to a movie theater with her other friends without telling her parents. Later, she told me to save her by telling to her parents that we were working on our test. I could not deny her request, so I told her parents that we were preparing for the test. I told them a false reason to protect my friend and to make her happy.

In conclusion, people lie in their everyday lives to hide the realities, to obtain some advantages and not to be punished by others. Some lies hurt others and some do not. It is a common and a natural thing that everyone accept white lies and they go through it. We tell white lies to make someone comfortable and to save them from troubles. I do not like to lie people but I am not an exception. I do not lie without any special reason. I take risks of telling lie in the situations when I have to protect my friends from difficulties. I believe it is okey to lie if it does not harm, hurt and damage anyone. It is very important to understand where and when we can lie and not lie.